I’ve been bridesmaid 4 times… 1 time when I was 8 years old and the remaining three within the past 3 years. I have to say for all those people who are starting wedding planning with minimal experience… hats off to you. Where to even start?!
The beauty of being bridesmaid so many times (aside from not having to choose an outfit for each wedding) is that I’ve been able to identify pretty quickly what I don’t like and what I do like about weddings which has meant that 2 weeks since Tim proposed, we have identified WHERE we would like to get married and WHEN.
Firstly, I started off by asking my friends who I had been bridesmaid for, how much their wedding cost:
Friend 1: The Caves in Edinburgh plus everything else – £15000
Friend 2: A church ceremony, hotel reception and everything else – £13000
Friend 3: Doune Castle and reception at a nearby village hall and everything else – £19000
Our conclusion… identify our time frame and look abroad.
I briefly entertained getting married within the UK but there were too many difficulties – half my friends are Scottish teachers who have different term dates to my English teacher friends. A Saturday would potentially cost £3000 more than a Friday or even more than any other week day. Tim and I are not big drinkers and aren’t too fussed about the party element and his theoretical best man is being a bit of a numpty at the moment which makes things very difficult.
Both Tim and I concluded it would be easier and more joyful if we and our immediate family took ourselves off abroad and then had a cheaper party on a Saturday when everyone could make it.
So if the world is our oyster, where on earth do we start?! After a couple of minor arguments and some flicking through brochures, we stumbled across Aruba in the Caribbean.
Pretty self explanatory. This is Aruba!
We can’t book anything at the moment because it’s not available for when we are looking to get married. But believe me, you will definitely know!